What's in A Name?

I'll tell you why it is important! Read on to find out!

Lage Raho Munnabhai is creating waves everywhere. I saw it too. Loved it. Enjoyed every moment of it. Do not worry !This is not another reveiw but what came out of the predeccessor... Munnabhai M.B.B.S

Yash,my nephew who was 3 years then, was a kid who loved seeing ads & trailers on T.V. So the name of this movie stuck as he loved the title track of this film. A few months after the movie had released, we had a family get together & one of my cousins was talking to Yash.

Now Yash's dad(my B-i-l) is an interior designer who has also undertakes orders of making furniture & so goes to his Workshop on most days. Everytime Yash asked his dad where he was going, he wud say,"Workshop" So the little one assumed everyone who goes to work, goes to "the Workshop!"

While talking to my cousin, Yash suddenly asked, " you also go to workshop?" My cousin replied, "no ,I go to a clinic." Yash was surprised! "why not Workshop?"
My sister who was there, tried explaining, "Yashi! Mama is a doctor, M.B.B.S and that's why he goes to a clinic." Yash's reaction, was most startled. He looked at my cousin (poor guy a M.D in paed) & asked" O! So u are Munnabhai?" My cousin was shocked but the rest of us burst out.

And till date he remains "Munnabhai " to Yash!

So now we know, " What's in a Name? ..... EVERYTHING!

JUST CHILL!

I always wonder how kids are so happy! They forget so easily & enjoy every moment of what life gives them. We have all been kids once. But then... Don't know when all the stress starts creeping into us & we stop laughing & start worrying! Maybe the boards! no much before that it is the pressure to do well in the tests, To be captain of your house,To be part of the team games, to be part of the play in the Annual day..... When did it first start.

When my son's best friend won the individual championship he congratulated him & was so proud that his friend won it, though he missed it. I was happy that my son was a good friend and a nice human being. I was proud of him.

But thinking back i don't think I was very proud when my best friend won an award I was so sure to win, when we were leaving school.I thought maybe her mother a teacher in our school influenced the decision of the teachers. I know I was mean. She deserved it & so she won. My mother however baked a cake for her , called her home & had a surprise party for her.My friend was thrilled! It was my unforgettable lesson on learning to accept defeat gracefully.Amma taught me that it is important that I fought well.The winner is not important.
An important lesson that has helped me in life all along.
I realised that it is not the award that is important but that she is a friend with whom I had my best moments in school.

Life has given me many ups & downs & I have learnt to be unaffected by them. I know that in the journey we take ,this is very important in shaping our personalties. Maybe somewhere it is the award that is important but when you get it you realise that is not exactly what you thought you would feel like. The journey to getting it is more memorable than the award itself. You miss out on wonderful time when you fret & fume.

Why can't we be like kids always? Why is victory so important? Is is worth all the trauma we go through? We had much lesser complications in our growing up years. Our parents were not as competitive as we are to see our children win. Then the competition were ones we developed much later in school life which were healthy but today even in the first grade kids are sent for tution. Come on, isn't it torture? 10th ,11th 12th I understand,but first grade...too much!

What do we want our next gen to be? We had a carefree childhood! The other day when I had gone to pick up my kids I cudn't but help listen to a conversation between two mothers on how their kids had fared in a test.One telling the other that her son had 191/2 in a test out of 20 because of a "EE ki mathra" & the other one proudly saying, "my son got 20 in all papers. I send him to hindi tution classes you see.I make him study for 1 hour everyday." Curious I asked them in which class their kids were studying. Their reply was 1st grade. I didn't know whether I am a bad mother 'coz most of the time I don't make my kids study for that long... I prefer they play outside instead. Everyday 1/2 hour of concentrated study is what I ask of them & they are ok in studies.

Honestly I wonder what childhood today's kids would have to think back on, Juggling between so many classes & still expected to be toppers in class..., Summer holidays filled with so many different camps instead of a carefree 60 days we had as kids... Tutions from class one itself! School is a place kids hate to go to. Parents have so much of expectations from the kids. They expect them to be allrounders.

The suicide rates of students waiting for the bord results are a pointer to the high stress levels of today's kids.After all, all successful people in life have not been toppers in school but they overcame defeat boldly!

What are we aiming at? Stressed out adults who are so tired fighting that they are jaded by the time they step into the 'real' world OR confident adults who can face defeat & know that it is an integral part of the game!
If it is the latter we chose then i think we,should "JUST CHILL!"

THANK YOU!

Two simple words , that convey so much! In life today we take so much for granted that it seems surprising that we have forgotten the magic, these two words can evoke.

In relationships such as friendships we say, "No sorry & no thank you" , but sometimes it makes it worth it! I think it has been long since I've said "Thank you" to my sister who is always there when I call her. It's been long since i said "Thank you" to my parents for moulding me to who I am! "Thank you" to my husband who's really been very sweet & to my kids who make my life so complete!

I make something for my kids to eat and drink every evening when they are back from school. My mother did it too. I enjoyed it but didn't say "Thank you" to her, as much as my kids do not forget to say it everyday. I know as a mother that is one of the many things they expect from me. I do not expect their Thank you. But honestly, It feels good when they enjoy it & say it everyday!
When it is sincere these two words work wonders!

A big "Thank You" to each one of you who dropped by & took time to write a comment.
You have been the inspiration behind my being a blogger now for a year!

So long guys! Remember however, to smile & say a sincere "Thank You" to any one who made even the slightest difference to you.

TRY IT TO SEE THE DIFFERENCE YOU CAN BRING ABOUT!